Ever wondered who is your boyfriend texting with late at midnight and does not want you to know about? Is your boyfriend spending more time with his friends than you!. We all have spent a good portion of our time thinking that our significant other is planning to date someone else, perhaps that someone else might be close to him. Instead of pondering aimlessly, we should look for signs that might tell us that our boyfriend is attached to his female friend and might date her in future.
Ways to tell if your boyfriend is romantically attached to his female friend.
1) Late-night hang out with friends:
Although to be fair we all deserve a weekend night out with friends! who does not enjoy loud music, flowing booze and dancing till our body runs out of steam!. But things tend to change when he is not picking your phone and avoiding your texts and the following morning you see pics on social media that are perhaps too indicative of a brewing romance. Putting jealousies aside there is some truth to it as most late-night affairs begin at pubs, bars and night clubs.
2) Sudden Interest in mentioning her name:
Does your boyfriend get suddenly excited and more interested in the conversation at the mere mention of her friend’s name? Is she is always the topic of his conversations and frequently mentions her name and compares you with her. Well, you might consider it a harmless affection but it can turn out to be more than that. If he is spending more time with her than you it might be time to reconsider your relationship with him and straighten out any misconceptions.
Clarity and trust is the foundation of any relationship and transparency must be a core value of any individual if he tries to establish any long-lasting relationship.
3) Hanging out with her without telling you:
Secretly hanging out behind your back may be the first sign of an affair and may suggest romantic involvement. If you have notions that your boyfriend is meeting with her friend without disclosing you, your priority must be to inquire with his other friends about his whereabouts and cross-check with him. If he is lying to you about where he is then he is hiding something and you should confront him about this as soon as possible as ignoring this might not turn out well in the future.
4) Lack of boundaries:
Well, generally good friends are rather touchy and share their space with each other. But it gets a little suspicious if every interaction between them becomes a touching frenzy and they are sharing their personal space a little too much. A well-respected boundary is needed between good friends but when that boundary is breached and abused a little too much it becomes rather difficult to digest that the nature of their relationship is limited to just friends and not something else.
5) Can’t take criticism about her:
Does your boyfriend become mad whenever you began to criticize her friend? There is a fine line between protective and overprotectiveness. Try to find that he shares the same views about his other friends. If he is overprotective about only one particular friend then there is a need to worry.
If my boyfriend matches all these criteria does it mean he is cheating with me?
No not at all! All people are built different and act differently towards their family and friends. Meeting all criteria does not definitely mean he is having an affair. You must be very careful about making any allegations and must conduct a thorough investigation before reaching a conclusion. Your relationship might suffer if you make any baseless accusations and even lead to a breakup. Be very careful on how you deal with this otherwise, you might lose your boyfriend.